Friday, March 9, 2012

The Second Hander

 “Nature allows no vacuum. Empty a man’s soul and the place is yours to fill.”

                    - AYN RAND.

This article is for all the second-hander so that they can ponder over this.

You must be making a lot of regrets and wishes in your day to day life like, if I was a little longer, if I could lose some more weight, if I could be stylish like him, if I could be a good orator like her etc. There’s no end to this ridiculous list!

You always regret that, if only you could be like him or her, but the point is if you would be like him or her, then what about your identity; your own personality?
Well, that’s what is called the ‘Human Nature’! We are never content with what we have. The grass on the other’s lawn always seems greener! We never value what we have, including our own talents.

People simply play with their life, in order to be like someone else. They seek greatness– in other's eyes. They seek fame, admiration, envy – all that which comes from others. People don't want to be great, but to be thought great. They borrow from others in order to make an impression on the others. Man knows himself to be dishonest, but others think he’s honest and he derives his self-respect from that, second hand.
He knows himself to be mediocre, but he’s great in the eye of the others.

People ignore their inherent talents and try to refine the things which never existed with them. They live their lives freely (?), controlled by the whips of others. They don’t do the things which they prefer because of the fear of what others would think about them!

One can’t say about a single thing- ‘This is what I wanted because I actually wanted it not because it made my neighbors gape at me.’ This is the root cause of one’s degradation.
So, people just prefer to live in their utopia of dreams. They are nothing, but the emotional crocks!
People will never take any initiative to prove themselves, but they will always complain about not getting the right opportunities.

Every one of us has a passion, but how many are able to follow their passion? Or even talk about their passion? We just lead the life of ‘Second Hander’ and enjoy our mediocrity.

There are many obstacles in the path of confronting our passion. We fear of the defeats, we fear what people have to say about this, and we even fear of realising our own dreams! As Oscar Wilde said, “Each man kills the thing he loves".
And it’s true! Keeping our passions at bay is the most destructing thing, we can do to ourselves! We just have to forget all our qualms and demolish the wall of fake ness around us.

So, prepare yourself for a new life, and living it according to your own wishes. And as far as the fear of public is concerned, well may the public be damned!
Because when we suspend our faculty of independent judgement, we suspend consciousness. To stop consciousness is to stop life.

Just remember one thing…

     “Duniya ka sabse bada ROG…..Ki kya Kahenge LOG...”


  1. Well Done..Your are unique my dear friend and i know you...
    Keep writing i like your Blogs....

  2. Thanx a lot my dear anonymous friend. I'll surely write more blogs.

  3. Loved reading your blog.
    The second hander,wt an awesome name u gave!
    loved the line "People don't want to be great, but to be thought great."
    Keep writing.
    Best wishes.

  4. @Nancy- Thanx a lot. I'm glad that you liked my blog. :)

    And about the name, 'The Second Hander', it was given by Ayn Rand. I used it here, in somewhat different context.